To my future partner

Okay here’s the thing. There’s no way that we won’t headbutt, right? So let’s make an agreement before we walk along the aisle.

1. Be honest with EVERYTHING. Don’t hide anything from each other because that would break the firm foundation of this relationship: trust.
2. Your feelings matter. The moment one of us feels scared because of others' actions, tell. We might need some time to process each of our feelings. But that’s okay. Take all the time we need, and whenever we’re ready, let’s have that conversation. Oh, and remember our safe word!
3. My first and foremost love language is word of affirmation. So when we’re apart, simple chats like good morning, I love you, and validations to my feelings would mean a lot to me. But only chatting won’t be enough to create a certain amount sense of connection. Calling would provide that. 
4. Another thing that would make me feel our connections is hugging and kissing. Hence, the rule of No byes without kisses and hugs will come into effect once we are pronounced as spouses. 
5. And about conflicts, we have to find OUR way to resolve them. I’m not really good at talking through conflicts as my temper would cloud my judgement. Although I’m good at resolving them through chat, this is still something that I need to work on. I can’t rely forever on resolving conflict through chat. Sometimes I just need a hint of courage and trust that my partner won’t intentionally harm me, be it physically or mentally, once the situation heats up. 
6. Once we have kids, there’s no arguing in front of them. Let’s protect our future from generational trauma. I don’t want them to have my temper. I don’t want them to get bitter after an argument. I don’t want them to get defensive. I want them to feel secure in every situation. I want them to feel heard even if they’re on the wrong side. So they can feel safe enough to admit their wrongdoing. Not shift the blame or hold resentment to others afterwards.
7. Splitting house chores. Let’s be real. In this day of age, there’s no such thing as men being the breadwinner or women being the home maker. I want to chase my career as much as you want to chase yours. And I also want you to be present for the family as you want me to be present. So please treat me as your equal even though you’re the head of the family. 
8. When one of the party members is sick. The other party must take care of the sick member. And the sick one must comply with every logical medical intervention the other party suggested. Only you know your own limit. SO DON’T ACT STRONG. Because I don’t want to lose my spouse to an illness I can prevent.
9. Staying together will require patience, compromise, trust, and commitment. It’s not gonna be easy to live with me. But you can bet that it’s worth the effort!
10. I will reciprocate what you give. So prioritize me if you want me to prioritize you. But don’t forget that the reason that I love you is simply because you exist.

I don't know when we're going to walk the aisle. But I am surely excited for it.